The problem within the Family

Just my thoughts....it is not a right of passage for a kid to be a jerk, nor is it a right of passage for them to be disrespectful to their parents. It is NOT ok for a child to "hate" their parent when said parent has clothed fed and loved them their whole life. It's not a normal thing to be in constant conflict with your teenager and it is NOT ok for you to throw up your hands and say its too hard... and give up. That is never ok! YOU are the parent, and it is your job to fight tooth and nail for them even when it's so hard it physically hurts you.

God trusted you to be their parent, not their bro, so act like it! Tell them no, put high expectations on them, NEVER make excuses for them, no matter what the limitation or situation is. Know where they are, with whom, at all times. Be a part of what they love and NEVER make excuses for why you let them down or failed them. 

 

The bills will still be there if tomorrow comes, but what if it doesn't come for one of you? Never put financial comfort before the love and respect of your children. "Stuff" will not build character, money won't buy it either, but love and support and genuine concern for them and everything they are, do, want to do and have done will go farther than the newest iPad or cell phone.

I've been the broken kid, I still struggle with this daily as a 30 year old woman, and now am the mom of a (almost) 13 year old. I don't forget being that kid, but I learned from it. It has helped me be stronger in areas so many parents take for granted, or think their kids "understand", and for that I am so greatful!

Although I don't have all the answers I trust God to give me the ones I need when I need them, I believe that it will not always be easy, but God always makes it worth it. In the end I truly look forward to seeing the works God has started in each of my kids flourish and grow, the ultimate gift given to any parent. 

Again, just my thoughts.....